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What does it mean when you are hookup exclusively

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It's hardly news that conventional dating norms have gone out the window and, with them, so too have traditional dating labels. It is now expected that a couple will first hookup for a significant -- albeit unsubstantial -- period of time, only to then qualify their pseudo relationship with vague promises of monogamy.

Sounds like a girlfriend to me.

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And that's okay because, contrary to those bemoaning the supposed death of monogamyit's clearly not the monogamy that freaks him out, but rather, monogamy's prescribed terminology. Indeed, labels are often black and white, imposing undesirable norms upon huge swaths of people to whom rigid conventions cannot and should not be applied.

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Labels do well, however, to simplify and clarify -- to provide boundaries and set expectations. But what about exclusivity itself?

It's a little more than just hooking up, but not exactly full-blown dating.

So here are some tips...

With absolutely no parameters beyond "don't hookup with anyone else," how do those in exclusive arrangements know what to expect from their For instance, do you invite them to your holiday party? And, if so, how do you introduce them? Meet Craig, my friend with whom I am consistently physical but don't yet call my boyfriend because I'm not percent convinced he's worth my time.

Do you turn down other dating prospects?

Or perhaps, keep your options open without ever letting things with someone else accelerate beyond flirtatious conversation?

But then, what if they do?