This site uses cookies. By continuing, your consent is assumed. Learn more

99.4fm shares

Dating someone you know is not the one


Sometimes, outside factors like school, distance, time and careers can come between couples, making it seemingly impossible to work around them. However, it goes without saying that you and your SO should always be on the same page about the status of your relationship, or else the other person could end up feeling seriously hurt and confused.

All Campus Chapters

When you know a relationship is coming to an end, it is essential that you both have healthy communication about it. It is likely one person is ready for the relationship to end while the other one is not.

If you are the one who is ready to end it, then you should be the one to respect your partner's needs for closure. However, doing so can lead to major heartbreak down the road when one or both of you decide to call it quits. Carole Lieberman, a relationship expert and media psychiatrist. Avoiding serious attachment can help you and your SO keep things civil down the road, if you do decide to break up.

Of course that means being mindful, and not getting really emotionally attached. But if both people are aware of the situation, it's usually fun to just enjoy the rest of your time together for what it is, and have a happy ending rather than a bad break-up later. If keeping things low key is a serious problem for you and your partner, you may want to talk about the possibilities of a long-distance relationship or getting more serious about going long-term.

“Dating someone 'in the meantime'...

However, if the end is in sight for the Dating someone you know is not the one of you, you can make things a lot easier on yourself if you avoid getting too attached too quickly. Sometimes it's better to maintain the friendship rather than to go through a messy breakup. The other consideration is that it is wonderful to experience intimacy and to have a person with whom you can share your life, even if it is temporary.

Settling for a bad relationship erodes your self-esteem. Our long term plans took us in opposite directions too--he wanted to settle down in California and I wanted to live in New York. There was no point in salvaging something when we just had different long-term goals.

Follow your heart when it comes to deciding whether or not you and your SO should stay together. There is never a guarantee any relationship will last forever, even married ones.

Don't be worried about a hypothetical situation in the future that may never happen, just enjoy the moment and allow the relationship to grow into whatever it becomes. Relationships can be amazing and rewarding, but they should never add negative pressure to your life—especially during your college years.

Being together isn't always fun

Always put your happiness first, collegiettes! Brianna Susnak is a sophomore at Indiana University Bloomington where she studies journalism and Spanish. Her passions include social media, music, traveling, culture and the arts.

Outside of class, she hosts her own weekly radio show and writes for the campus newspaper. In her free time, you can find her running, eating Nutella out of the jar and annoying her neighbors with loud music.

I was helping cook dinner...

Follow her on Twitter briannasus. Skip to main content. You're dating someone who's not willing to compromise or try anything romantic. Your friends know you well – they're the one's you spend the most time with.

News feed