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What to get a guy your hookup for his birthday

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I recently searched the term fuckbuddies and was pleasantly surprised that this was a rather popular hash tag, mostly populated by memes, selfies of half naked humans and a lot of group shots surprising?

Whether it's that opposite sex friend that's your "bestie", your study partner or that nice guy you keep on the down-low who is only talked about by their nickname amongst your friends, friends with benefits FWB is a state of relationship that many of us are all too familiar with.

We get into them for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it feels like a magnet is pulling your bodies together, sometimes it's the lab partner you see on a weekly basis you know At times the FWB can be confused with a situationship. A situationship is highly based on sexual compatibility and long term convenience.

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They are the sexual relationships that straddle the FWB and relationship line; that foggy state of relationship status when there isn't a label on "what this is" or your situation together, as you navigate what the next steps are; like putting your Facebook relationship status into "it's complicated". Unhealthy situationships are the bane of my existence. Because they're complicated and someone always gets emotionally hurt. It is because of the frequency of situationships that I've been exposed to over the years that I decided to share a collaborated wealth of advice and lay down the rules of FWB relationships.

To be honest, if executed properly, friends with benefits have been found to last longer than real relationships do! These rules are basically a guideline to demonstrate how to set healthy relationship boundaries for yourself and your "What to get a guy your hookup for his birthday." The motivation for FWBrules is to help you figure out how to stay on good terms with your fornication friend for the desired amount of time and save the emotional heartache or disruption.

You may agree with most and disagree with a few, but if you've ever been an FWB you know exactly what I'm talking about. I didn't make the rules but I do want to share them with you; so, pony up, take a read and add your own FWBrules in the comments below. They are time limited. The lifespan of your love affair is limited and you have to come to terms with that going into the arrangement. There are rules to the frequency of engagement.

Basically, anywhere from once a week to once a month is acceptable, unless, it's a holiday or long weekend. The key is to keep things light and casual - no back to back encounters sex marathon-ing to break a world record doesn't count, but keep the Powerade refrigerated.

Presents like small trinkets or picking up the bill are ok, but don't expect a gift for you birthday or for a respective holiday. Gift giving is for sentimental relationships.

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Your FWB can't be someone you work with. Been there, done that. Staff meetings just get awkward. No daytime conversational texts. You have enough friends; tell them about your Game of Thrones spoiler. On that note, when you do reach out you can ring them once but don't expect a response right away.

As much as you and I both wish that life was about people waiting around to have sex with you they also lead lives. You are not allowed to get mad if the hook-up doesn't happen.

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Explore your fantasies, be real and don't be self conscience about your body. There is nothing more unsexy than an FWB who over thinks their looks or the situation, unless lingerie, toys or fetish play is involved.

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Sleeping over is appreciated, but not expected. Some FWB arrangements work best with the no sleep-over rule and some require it, especially if you're coming in from out of town or you both pass out from the Grey Goose. The 72 hour rule. No pre-planning is allowed to happen prior to 72 hours before said hook-up. Well, because it's hot; but, have an agreement on sharing dirty pics that you're both comfortable with.

No one likes to be pressured to share the goods digitally and, no one likes to see a surprise meme of their bodacious booty on Google. Both of you get off. No one likes a greedy booty call; and, when it's this good, that's not a risk you're willing to take, now is it? Be open to trying new things and being experimental in between the sheets.

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