He is king at skating by with the bare minimal text communication required and I -as a high maintenance, insecure, hard ass female- have never been happier or more confident in a relationship.
There are days we are both running around like chickens without heads, 7: There are days it is worse than that, one of us is running from job one to two, finishing up with just enough time to call the other right before they fall asleep.
While this all sounds horrible, grueling and a perfect mix for a toxic relationship with no trust, the lack of screen communication makes us stronger. I may not receive the live play by play of his day but every night I get the verbal replay.
There is something thrilling about hearing his day be told in his voice, being able to hear him express his excitement, or stress, his happiness or moments of defeat makes me feel as if I was there. I am not just it I am experiencing it with him. We can all appreciate a congratulatory or motivational text, but why are we depriving ourselves the thrill of hearing the excitement another has for us and our accomplishments.
When we are able to see each other dates are never dull and conversation is always flowing.
There is a certain level of intimacy we are able to maintain because or relationship does not take place over a screen. Phones are rarely taken out during a meal, or while we are with each other in general. This is because I want to, not because I am afraid of the repercussion a missed text might cause or because I feel the need to stalk my others half Instagram for any unwanted likes.
I regained a certain level of independence.
I have even let my phone die without rushing to the nearest charger or simply placed in on silent while I run my daily errands or wonder the mall endlessly. The lack of relationship texting has allowed me to maintain my freedom and vice versa.
Trust is a huge part of relationships and texting, not texting and whom we are caught texting plays a huge part in that. Relaying on technology to keep a relationship going is dangerous, while in some cases technology is necessary it should Bad texter thought catalog dating be everything. The simple act of putting your phone away and enjoying the now — whether that be while on a date, or out with your friends — is important.
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