So we asked real women to contribute their thoughts. Read on to hear advice, commiseration, and encouragement. The biggest difference from dating in my 20s from dating in my 30s is how secure I feel with myself. In my 20s, I was still unsure of what I wanted and who I was. It was a time of trying new things and exploring. Now at 30, I feel solid in my personality — my quirks, my flaws, and my strengths. Learning how to be alone has actually really helped me learn how to be a better friend and partner.
It goes back to knowing who I am and what I want. Learning how to do things alone as the token single girl of your friendship group also helps you focus in on the non-negotiable in your relationships.
Learning how to be alone something that horrified me in my early 20s has actually really helped me learn how to be a better friend and partner. Two very powerful things. My biggest piece of advice would be not to settle. Trust me, the right guy is out there for you. You just have to look and be open to it. To quote Carrie Bradshaw: N ever settle for anything less than butterflies.
That goes for dating older and younger than what you normally do. I say, give it a shot! It could be an interesting change.
So, I moved four hours away for a new job. This was huge — it helped me shake up my routine and forced me to meet new people. I focused more on myself and my future and stopped being a workaholic. I said yes to any social opportunities — why not?! Enjoy where you are in life! The filters you think matter?
I ended up with an introverted vegetarian. It made a huge difference in how I viewed the whole process. My biggest advice is to commit to putting yourself out there — on your terms and within the confines of the energy you have available. It will help you both respect your time You have other things to do! I am not interested in dating a guy who has kids. So, before I go out with a guy, I ask.
Two guys have lied to me about having kids.
Most recently, I asked the guy point blank, and he replied that he had no kids. I lost my appetite. I wanted to get up and leave right then and there. After dinner, when we walked out of the restaurant, I explained that I would not be staying to walk around, and I was going home. He was surprised but said goodbye.
I got a text a few minutes later in which he apologized for offending me and not being honest.
He admitted he should have been honest all along. I agreed with him and wished him luck.