One of the unique opportunities I have attending seminary, after ten years "If were talking then were predating" marriage, is discipling young men who are single or dating. One of the disadvantages, however, is not being current on the lingo. This struck me in a recent conversation with a friend who told me he had gone out several times with a young lady and was uncertain about the status of the relationship.
Curious, I asked him if he was planning on continuing to date this girl.
Dumbfounded and feeling a little old and disconnected, I decided to investigate this new pre-dating phenomenon. After these conversations, I was left with the question: Do we really need another stage in relationships that are directed toward marriage? Our culture suffers from a large number of males wallowing around in quasi-manhood for many years. Boys used to grow up, get a job, and move out of the house.
But we have inserted this chain of life stages from adolescence, to the college years, to early career, and so on — all of which permit young men to put off growing up, taking responsibility, and generally acting like a man.
It prevents the man from having to be clear about his intentions to pursue or If were talking then were predating the relationship. They are stuck going on non-dates with guys who are scared to date. In their defense, guys tell me they are afraid to ask a lady out because she might immediately assume he wants to marry her.
I understand the concern, but that does not change the need for character — it makes it all the more necessary.
First, you should ask girls out that you see as potential wives. Third, throughout the relationship be clear, upfront, and honest about your intentions. If you just want to get to know her better, tell her so. If you see this relationship turning into something more serious, tell her that too.
Those are the only two options for a man of God. If you are a young man intimidated by the prospect of intentionally pursuing a young woman as a wife, seek the Lord in fervent prayer.
Search your heart and your intentions to ensure they are grounded in the gospel and informed by Scripture. With your conscience clear before the Lord and your heart and mind shaped by His word, stand confident in the care of your heavenly Father and hers and speak boldly to If were talking then were predating sister in Christ.
Our God is a God of truth, and your sister in Christ deserves to know the truth from you. It is impossible to follow someone who will not lead. Find a man who will treat you as a sister in the Lord deserves to be treated: Our brothers and sisters in Christ deserve better than this.
Manhood and Womanhood Defined According to the Bible. Crossway Books Before coming to seminary, he served in various church leadership positions in addition to spending fifteen years in the automotive and finance industries.
He and his wife Tiffany have been married ten years, have two children, and are active members at Third Avenue Baptist Church in Louisville, Kentucky. You can follow JD on Twitter: You, too, can help support the ministry of CBMW. We are a non-profit organization that is fully-funded by individual gifts and ministry partnerships. By JD Gunter Talking One of the unique opportunities I have attending seminary, after ten years of marriage, is discipling young men who are single or dating.